Help!!

My husband and I are kind of in a vanilla rut sexually and he is more ok with it than I am. He’s pretty vanilla and up until now that’s been fine with me but lately I’ve been wanting him to just be dominant with me but he’s not really in to it. I’m not talking about anything crazy. Just maybe trying some light spanking or pulling my hair, just being more dominant. He just isn’t in to being that dominant because of my past trauma. Has anyone ever experienced anything like this? If so what did you do/how did you handle it?