Him or Her??!!

**I’m going to try and make a long story a lot shorter so bare with me and thank you to everyone who reads this and gives their input!**

I met my husband when he was one of my bosses at a golf course I worked at (six years ago.) He was the tournament director and things started as friends with benefits as neither of us wanted a relationship and/or (anymore) kids. (He has two from a previous marriage.) Well fast forward almost six years and we have been married for five & a half years and have an almost three year old daughter and a five month old daughter together.

Ok, so here’s where the issue comes in. I get a message from a girl who works at the golf course that says my husband and another girl who worked there (she wouldn’t tell me her name 🙄) back in the summer/fall of 2018 had a “very close” relationship and that if it had been her husband or bf she would have been pretty uncomfortable with how they were acting. Of course I know this girl because I use to work there and we run in a similar circle of friends (small ass town) so I message her back she tells me he would stay late after work and drink with her. Sometimes after tournaments they would be the only two left closing up the course. Now Ik this is all possible bc we had hit a rough patch at this point and my daughter and I were spending a lot of time at my parents house bc my husbands drinking was becoming too much and I told him to tone it down or we were gone. So there were a lot of nights we were at my parents house and I trusted him and never thought anything of it. Well, I decided to message another girl I’m closer to from the course she tells me the girls name, let’s call her B, and says my husband and B would hangout all the time and talk and drink and stay late and be the last ones there.

Now I’m getting that horrible can’t catch my breath, heart sinking feeling. Like wtf! We even had another kid after we made up and worked on our relationship and now I’m thinking so he was having sex with this girl the whole fucking time I’m taking care of our daughter!!!!

I confront him. He denies it all at first. Then he says yes we talked but only about our marriage problems. 1. She’s not married 2. She’s five years younger than me 3. She never had a serious bf How the fuck is she giving you any marriage advice??? I call bullshit!!!!!!! This happened two months ago and he still won’t own up to anything more than drinking and normal conversation. I still don’t believe it.

This whole situation has taken a back burner bc our daughter has a mystery illness and it’s been really hard on our family. Thankfully we are seeing an immunologist soon and should have answers for her.

Anyways anyone been thru something similar? I didn’t cover it all, it’s just too long. So feel free to ask questions. Again thanks for your time!!