What's the best way to ask for more foreplay w/o it coming off as rude?

It takes a while to get me going, and we both kinda just go straight to sex. I'm very tight, so it takes a few thrusts to start feeling anything good, but even then, even if I feel relaxed, the kitty does not, and therefore sex is uncomfortable> pleasure > pain. It doesn't hurt(only on initial penetration), but it doesn't feel awesome. He's an 8incher.

My solution was more foreplay, I know I can ask him anything and talk to him about anything, but I'm sort of really bad at saying things extremely bluntly. In the moment I want to be able to tell him exactly what I want without feeling like I'm sounding bossy or like a karen.

like, I want to make out longer and build the anticipation more. I want him to be gentle with my body and lick my neck more, rub my clit, etc. All the slow passionate things bc the build up usually makes sex better, but I don't want to be instructing him like I'm teaching him. I've been in that role before, as the more experienced person in a past relationship, but he has waaay more experience than I do, I just dont want to sound like I'm patronizing him. I think most girls he's been with in the past liked it rough from start to finish, but I need a minute.