Starting to feel like I have no say in my baby shower, it’s being hosted by my MIL and grandmother. My grandmother suggests cold cuts, my MIL shuts it down like “you don’t want too much meat” I suggest a diaper raffle and she INSISTS it be for men only (co-Ed) I said “I want it for everyone, so if my mom wants to bring diapers then she fills out a raffle too” and she seemed very hesitant like “oh ok well I guess”

It just seems like anytime I want something, she has something to say about it, I’m at the point to just keep my mouth shut and let her throw the shower that SHE wants. 90% of the guests are her guests anyway. She went all out buying prizes for gift baskets, never let me have a say on what I’d like inside of them - we had told her we want it simple low budget and we’re willing to make candy bags as prizes since everyone loves candy but that was a “yea I guess” and she still went out and made her own prize baskets.

She’s becoming a little overbearing and anytime I try to talk to her son about it he seems to get offended so I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m happy she’s excited but I’d like to have a say in my own shower too. And it’s not even just the shower anymore, it’s come to the point that she tells me what brand of diapers to buy, and that we NEED a play-pen (which we don’t have space for) I also explained to her that for the high chair we are looking for one that attaches to the regular chair since our apartment is small and she seemed like “oh, ok” like not everyone likes bulky furniture all over their house ffs.