I can’t stand my toddler

I know some of you may judge and maybe I am a bad mom but I’m at my last hair. My 1.3 year old has become a monster. I cannot do anything without her screaming and crying. I try and shower she screams and cries (she’s in there with me) I try to clean, workout, eat, sleep, grocery shop, etc and all she does is scream and cry. She has been fed, cleaned, bathed, etc and she won’t stop! I’ve given her Tylenol for her teeth and she still cries and cries. I don’t know what to do... I let her feed herself and she throws everything, I feed her and she hits the spoon making food go everywhere. I attend to her when she cries and it makes it worse when I step away. I’ve let her cry it out and eventually she stops, but this is so so often that I can’t just let her cry it out. I feel like pulling my hair out. I never get peace. I have no one to help, I’m a SAHM and my husbands job requires him to be gone days at a time. It’s so embarrassing walking into a store and having her have a tantrum and there’s nothing more I can do 😢😥😖🥺🥺 my husband wants a son soon and I honestly don’t know if I can give him that, because I don’t think I can deal with 2 kids 😢😢😢