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Hey! I’m 37 and TTC #1. Don’t let people get you down. Most of my friends were in their mid to late thirties when they had their first too (it’s very common in the Bay Area).
Everyone acts like 37 is too old!😡
Im 37 and we have unexplained infertility, everytime anyone asks about us having kids I try to avoid the conversation. Just say waiting for the right time or whatever, usually I get the response back dont wait your getting old. Why are people so rude! We are saving for IVF at the moment and most my family knows that, last week I told one of my family members we should have the all the money in 6 months or so, ill be 38 then. Her response but you will be so old. 😡
Im so over insensitive and uneducated responses to my already depressing situation!
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I’m 37 and also TTC #1. Actually heard that today! Yes, I’m FULLY aware that my clock is ticking, thank you very much. We’ve actually been trying for over a year and then our plans got further derailed because I needed back surgery 🤷🏻♀️😕
Me
When I said no, she said good dont. Im trying to get rid of mine, I literally told her that was rude and walked away. People have no idea the sad and lonely struggle we go through when we cant just get pregnant.
Me
Good luck to you! 💗, I really do my best to ignore all those negative people, some days its harder than others. I actually had a coworker the other day that does not know about my infertility struggle go ask me about if i had kids
I just had my first baby through IVF at age 38. When I started treatment (just after turning 37), my RE told me he wished all his patients were as young as I was! You are not too old and I’m sorry you’re having to deal with insensitive comments.
Me
Thank you for that comment! That definitely makes me feel a little better that your RE said that, I really pray we will be able to start the IVF process soon. And Congratulations to you!
I feel for anyone who has been told before to hurry up before its too late or before you get too old... makes me angry and frasturated of people who believe its ok to say something like that to any women! Im 33 atm just starting this month to try for a #1 baby. Even when i was 29 i was asked when im having kids and not to wait to long.. at that stage i was single.. so figure that! Even after getting married i still get insensitive comments from people friends or some family members.. Only you know what your going through. Stay focused and positive our time will come 😊🙏
Me
Thank you! I appreciate that a lot💗, I am the only one out of 6 siblings that hasn't had a child yet and thankfully my brothers and sisters have all been sensitive to my struggle with this. I never in a million years thought that I would be TTC for almost 5 years💔. Good luck to you! Im sending baby dust your way!
I’m so sorry people are compounding your stress with their rudeness! You are NOT too old to be having a baby! I’m 38 and pregnant with my first child, and my family and friends are all thrilled for me. You deserve no less! I wish you and your husband success and as many beautiful babies as you want!
Me
Congratulations and thank you!!! I recently found out that my husband's family was going to help us out with the rest of the money we need. Im so happy they are willing to do that! I do my best everyday to stay positive and sometimes good things really do happen ❤
SAME!!!! 🤬 you would think these insensitive remarks are coming from men... but it’s women who are evil and vicious, our own kind. Just recently a women questioned my age and my “no child status” It upset me because I knew that those questions were asked out of malice. If we were all kind and respectful towards one another, the world would be a better place. Less Hatred results in Less stress and less pressure... higher chances of conceiving.
Ni
I always feel these type of comments are definitely meant to hurt us. There’s nothing kind to that. I’ve cried too girl... it’s truly hearbreakingv
Ni
I’ve had coworkers say things like “at this age, if you decide to have kids, you’re gonna look like a grandma’ not a mom” 💔
Me
I agree 100% all the comments that have really hurt or made me cry have all been from women. Some guy friends have made comments too but more of a joke, like do I need to step in if your husband isn't doing the job. Those just annoyed me but never hurt my feelings. I really do try not to stress about it but some days its easier than others
I am 37 years old and 33 weeks with my first. We did have to go to a reproductive endocrinologist and did a few rounds of IUI and got pregnant right before out 4th IUI. I did the stims but not the trigger or insemination.
Me
We did 4 IUI's all with triggers, unfortunately my insurance didn't cover the stims. He pretty much said we should do IVF since the stims would be thousands. Congrats to you on your pregnancy!
Maybe respond with something like, well I think you're too old to be making a comment on my age. 😝 Seriously though, people suck, and I'm sorry that you have to deal with insensitive folks. I'm much more direct so I'm ok with telling people that I have fertility issues and I've had miscarriages, been trying since 2014, so if they want to say something about me being too old (36 currently!), I'm also ok with having a snarky comeback ready. But that's just me lol. I'm pregnant again and crossing my fingers (all good so far!), but I would like to have 2-3 kids so I'll probably be trying to have kids into my 40s. If that's an issue for anyone, they can f*ck right off lol 😂
Sa
Yay! Good luck 🤞🏼😊
Me
Im pretty sure my inlaws are going to help with the rest of the money very soon, I am so looking forward to start everything 💗
Me
Thank you I really appreciate that! I try so hard to stay strong and after all these years I think most of the time im just numb to it now
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