Husband just doesn’t get anything

So my husband stayed home from work which he never does bc my mom and I were up all day and night with my baby. He had a very high fever so we were keeping an eye out and cooling him down. So my mom and I were exhausted beyond all. Plus I was already sick and feeling like crap and couldn’t take anything to help bc I’d fall asleep. So enter husband who comes home late from work around 1am bc of a project he had and I understand bc it had to get done only after the close of business. BUT he goes to sleep right away and every time the baby wakes I or my mom are the ones to get up. He got up finally in the morning when the baby was back asleep. I and my mom are wrecked and he’s not fresh but he’s feeling good. Come 3pm and he says work needs him bc they need help. I tell him I need him just this once here. He goes to work. Mind you work doesn’t need him that bad it’s just that they don’t know how to get shit done without him bc they rely on him to do it all instead of learn. He’s not even a lead man he’s just an employee. He says he was just sitting doing nothing at home anyways. That’s what he calls watching our son who is 12 months . Laundry is overflowing, dishes and bottles need to be done. And his idea of watching our son and helping at home is sitting.

Now he can’t understand how I view he always picks his job over family. He uses the wxcuse that his job needs help and needs him. I say hello we need you and I never ask you for anything like this! He thinks I’m deluded and I don’t make sense and he is always here. I’ve told him our agreement was he comes home and takes over which allows me to get my schooling done. We had this agreement and he said things change. So basically I stay at home with my son plus do ALL the household stuff and dinner then I also am getting my masters and a credential at the same time so I can have a career to support us in a couple years. Somehow I’m doing it all, my mom is a huge help but i get about 5 max hours of sleep every night and I am somehow maintaining an A average. I’m very proud of myself BUT I told him before we had our son, I will not do this alone.

My problem is he can’t get why I have a valid feeling. He always says to stop. I’m being dramatic bc I start crying. I hate to cry and it comes out bc I’m so frustrated that he isn’t hearing me or that he just doesn’t care. I don’t know which it is anymore. I love him but I’m at this point where I’m sick of being the only one handling everything. I tell him I can do it but I don’t want to. He’s an adult and he needs to take a load off me. Marriage is suppose to be a partnership.

Sorry this was so long.