I see so many posts on here, posted by young girls looking for advice on how to act like grown women (basically). I'm all for going through the stages, and learning what it means to become a confident/independent woman... But it also breaks my heart seeing some of these posts, because you can see that they are clearly being taken advantage of, due to being so inexperienced and naive. And honestly I once was one of these girls. So I'm hoping that young girls will see this post, and that maybe some of our stories will inspire them to make healthy, self-respecting choices for themselves, without the embarrassment and shame that they would typically get after posting an incredibly naive question/ comment ... Etc. I'm guilty of being of those women that suddenly goes into lecture mode on these youngins. But I can't help it, I'm about to be a mother to three daughters, and I was taken advantage of as a teen and young 20 something... And I genuinely want to try and influence young girls to make better choices. We may ridicule them for asking what we perceive as such absurd and disturbing questions... But I know at least half of you are lying if you tell me that you weren't once just as stupid. I mean this in the most loving way possible, because to be young and stupid is a sign of living life the right way. We can't learn without being stupid at one point in our lives. But after we've made these dumb mistakes, we should share our experiences to help the young ones out, before they go down a doomed path of no return.

Some of you have probably seen me posting a bit of my life experiences. I've been through shit just like everyone else. I had an ectopic pregnancy back in 2016, and that was so hard. But I had an amazing supportive partner in my life to get through it together (and I still do ❤️). But when I was 15-17, let's just say I had terrible taste in "men" lol 🤢🤦🏻‍♀️ But of course, I'm not the only one right? Ha! Yea so, this one awful human being was 21 at the time, and I was 17, and I found myself pregnant with this guy's child. He completely ghosted me. I had my beautiful first daughter at the fresh faced age of 18, completely by myself. My parents are amazing and were supportive, but I was on my own raising her, regardless. She's turning 11 this year. She doesn't know him. She knows of him. I don't know where he is. She recognizes my long term partner as her father, because he's been in her life consistently since she was 5. The other day she told me that she was glad that her biological father left, because she wouldn't have her real daddy or her two sisters. She's amazing. She's so wise. She inspires me. But I still fear she, and/or her sisters will fall into that older guy trap I fell into one day. But all I can do is try and have an open dialogue about the realities of older guys preying on young naive girls. I'm never going to stop telling my story, because even though I ended up as a young single mom many years ago, life could've gotten a lot worse for me. It's as though my daughter came into my life to literally save me from him, or from life threatening choices that I could've been too naive to explore. I'm grateful for where I am now, and proud of what I've grown from.

Shed some enlightenment here. Empower females of all ages. We need eachother whether you like it or not.