So I fell in love with a guy who is divorced, with 3 kids, boys. I found out after I fell in love with him that he had a vasectomy done a year ago. I told him it could always be reversed so when the time came when we wanted our own baby, he could get it reversed. Lately we've had so much going on that it's just impossible to plan for our future and the longer he waits to get it reversed, the harder it is to get pregnant. Plus hes almost 30. I'm just freaking out and bummed lately due to not being able to see the future I want with him. I love him but hes just stubborn and doesnt stand up for himself nor is he proactive about stuff. Just getting frustrated.

Update:

I've read yalls comments and let me clear some things up.

1. I know who my bf is, I was friends with him before I met him, we worked together then when i left the job, we began dating.

2. He wants a baby with my as well when we get married. Not talking about right now, in this moment. But when you are with someone for a year + you want to make sure you both want the same thing. I want to make sure I'm not wasting a year plus of my life.

3. He has multiple things go on but I feel like he just continues to push them off another day. He doesnt write a checklist or anything so half the time he forget unless I remind him in the moment.

4. I'm not in a rush to have kids in general, I've been in multiple long relationships. Been engaged before my current bf which ended in disaster. Not trying to waste my time on someone who isn't on the same page as me! That's not a bad thing!

5. When you take care of someone else's kids who make it known you're not their mom even though you do more for them than their own mom does, hurts.

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