Elope vs big wedding

My fiancé and I kind of have opposing opinions. I kind of just want to go to Hawaii or somewhere and just elope. He wants a real wedding with all our family. I understand he's close with his family, I am too, but I just want something intimate just the two of us.

I don't like being center of attention and I feel like this is something personal to us.

We both have huge families so it will be crazy expensive and I don't want to pay for it honestly, haha. We don't have much money, I would rather spend it on a house down payment.

I even told him we could elope and then have a reception later on with family. He said no it would hurt his family to not watch us 🙄

We live in Los Angeles so there's nothing cheap and affordable here lol. Everywhere I've looked at seems like it'll easily be more than 10k 😣

He said we'll figure something out but honestly eloping on the beaches of Hawaii sound amazing to me haha.

Any thoughts on this?