i’m getting married; while i want to take my husbands last name, i don’t want to drop my last names.

yes names. i have two last names from both parents side. i’ve had it like that my entire life. it is unique, it’s hyphenated and i’m know by it. it makes my name quite lengthy. school, work, doctors offices, all of the above has always been a task when it came to my name. one year it would be one, next it would be the other, then it would be both. sometimes there is no hyphen, sometimes there is, then i can’t log in or they can’t find me anywhere.

my soon to be husbands name is short and sweet, a name everyone knows. he is hurt because i want myself and my baby to have my two names and his one.

i always told myself i wouldn’t hyphenate my kids last name to save them the trouble but...

i feel like i’m giving up my identity, my ethnicity, my story, my family’s story. im the only one in my family with my last’s names left. my mom and sister cut out one or the other eventually.

it seems mundane but i love my names i want to represent all my family’s, my dads, my moms and my own...is that so wrong?