So I recently had a Pap smear and just today found out I gave HPV.

My mom warmed me to wait until it was confirmed with a second test before I told my boyfriend of 4 months, I decided not to.

I’m scared I should’ve waited. He swears he’s not upset but he got mad because I told him I was clean, and I am, besides that. The Pap smear wasn’t available until I was 21 so I had no way to know till now. I told him that I thought he should get tested as well, as he may have it, and he got made as he’s on lock down for the virus and can’t afford it, which is understand except he is covered by his moms insurance, but then again he might not want his mom to know.

I explained that because we are both vaccinated we have little risk of cancer, and that because it was caught early it can be treated and cured. And it’s not very life changing, my moms had it for almost 30 years. Despite numerous Pap smears prior to marriage, after marrying my dad she got another because she wanted kids and that’s when they told her.

I’m just scared he will leave me, which sounds stupid, and I feel I should’ve waited till I know for sure.

I also Believe there’s an 80% chance I got it from him, as we have had sex for almost 5 months, dated forces 4. There’s a chance it’s from the guy I was with before him, but I highly doubt it, and it kinda hurts he just assumed I gave it to him, but the other way around.