I’m in Ohio where everything non essential has shut down, which means many clinics postponed cycles. Some were able to continue because they were so far along, but that was based on the clinic and were they connected to a hospital. To some I am considered the lucky one because I was able to have my transfer. But Every day there are ladies in my fb group crying over the fact they were postponed. So I need to express how I feel about being the lucky one, maybe someone out there needs to understand why it’s not me that is the lucky one, but they are because of their postponed transfer.

To start there is very little research on the affects of Covid 19 to pregnant ladies. I have ready that it has caused some woman to go into labor earlier but hey they delivered healthy children. But let’s be honest, are they? We have no idea because this research is new, it’s limited, and it doesn’t cover long term effects. And what about those in early pregnancy? Studies have found having the flu during pregnancy can increase your chances of miscarriage, premature birth, and low birth weight. We don’t have studies on this because it hasn’t been around long enough. So if I am pregnant, will this increase my chance of miscarriage and by how much? Also with my asthma, are they gonna be able to control my oxygen flow so a baby can survive? I’m a walking lab rat.

Next, my partner now misses all the firsts. He is no longer allowed at appts with me, attend any ultrasounds, hear our baby’s heart rate....NOTHING. It’s like he isn’t even included in this process anymore. Ladies they are further along, their showers have been cancelled and their own family doesn’t get to visit them in the hospital to celebrate the birth of their child.

Lastly, let’s talk about the unhealthy stress that someone pregnant is feeling during all this Covid 19 pandemic. It’s not healthy for us but more importantly it isn’t healthy for the baby. You feel stress not pregnant, times it by 10. Not only are we not out of the wood but now our woods is covered in a poisonous smog!

Let me tell you, if I knew all this was gonna happen, I would have waited. I would have postponed myself. I am so invested emotionally and financially, it would be devastating for a miscarriage but I have to understand the reality that it could happen.

So next time you want to cry because your treatment was postponed, count your blessings that you won’t have to experience what us “lucky ones” are. Realize you are the lucky one.