We fight over my mom 🤦🏻‍♀️

Me and my husband (both in our 20s) live with my dad because he’s elderly and has health conditions. We plan to move out eventually but staying with him helps him a lot and it’s given us time to save for a large down payment on our first house. My mom is in her 50s and has two younger kids and she is on a fixed income. She has health issues too and her and her husband are disabled. My mom cleans houses for people sometimes because my sister plays sports and it can be expensive. We work over an hour from home and we spend about 12 hours away from the house every day. My dad pays my mom to clean for him because he’s not able to and sometimes I’ll pay her to help me with things too since she’s already there and I know she needs the money. My husband gets so angry about it! He says we should do that stuff ourselves not pay someone else to do it. I do clean myself a lot but I don’t have a lot of free time during the week so I don’t see the harm in letting her help because it really helps her too. Please no negative comments just want honest options.

Also want to add that we do have the money I’m not giving her money and putting us in a hard spot. We made 100k last year and my mom lives in a house I own so she has no rent but between her and her husband their income is only about 16k a year with two children and no government assistance.