so my bf is somali + i'm filipino. i've been w/him for four months. i'm absolutely in love💜

it's early in our relationship to think abt marriage... but it's clear that we picture our future together.

he brought up the idea of converting me to muslim a few times but we never had a solid talk abt it.

then finally, long story short, i was w/him on his bday, but his family wanted him home to celebrate.

he got so excited at the idea of me meeting his fam if i tagged along. but then he teared up when he realized he couldn't take me. ☹️

he explained that his parents + some of his siblings are very religious, and wouldn't accept our relationship if i'm not muslim.

he told me abt how his ex was christian and she didn't want to convert. when his family found out, they condemned him + told him to move out if he continues seeing her.

my grandma raised me catholic and so that's what i am. it's my way of feeling connected to her ever since she passed.

my immediate fam and i are not heavily religious, but we have our beliefs. however, the rest of my fam are very religious. regardless, everyone would never approve of us two. they'd probably cut me off if converted.

i feel like i'm at a dead end. 😔

i don't want his fam to hate him for being w/someone outside his religion. yet, i don't want to change who i am. if i convert, then my family would hate me.

he isn't pressuring me or anything, so don't think he is. he's been sweet + understanding. i get he's just expressing that this is what's expected of him when he finds an SO.

also, it's not that i'm opposed to learning about his culture + religion, i'm eager to. it's just the idea of completely converting myself though, is a different story.

it feels like an ultimatum and idk what to do. religion is a sensitive subject but i'm wondering if there are any couples who have gone/or are going thru something like this? or what are your guys opinions? 🥺