No ultrasound for almost 3 months?

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I had a silent miscarriage at 8 wks (in Oct) but didn’t know until 12 wks. Was able to get pregnant surprisingly soon after. My OB confirmed my pregnancy at  6-ish wks (via ultrasound). She knows about my silent miscarriage. I’m now almost 15 weeks, and my OB says she can’t have me go in until 20 wks at the very LEAST. 
I know it’s for my safety (covid-19) and theirs. It’s why I haven’t made a big deal. But what if I’ve miscarried again and just don’t know it? It’s crazy I know. The logical part of my brain is telling me to keep calm but the other side really wants to just say “no I NEED to see this baby for the sake of my mental health” 
What should I do? I would have to wait 5 more weeks. Ughh
EDIT: clarifying- So my OB hasn’t seen me at all since 6wks pregnant. I am now 15 wks and she informed me that she wouldn’t have me go in until 20wks. I haven’t seen or heard baby since 6wks. Reason I’m going a little crazy. I live in Washington state if that makes a difference on OB appt policies!
UPDATE: I spoke to my OB nurse and she said that I didn’t need an appt for my blood genetic testing so to just walk into the lab. Also, waiting from 6wks to 20 wks isn’t that long for a physical appt and that even if it’s just phone appts it’s still an appt so I’ve technically had 2 of those already. I mentioned my concern of my blood pressure going unchecked. She said that they would check weight, blood pressure, and thyroid panel at the lab. So I don’t need an appt. then I was like “I had a silent miscarriage last pregnancy, and waiting this long for even a Doppler hearing is stressing me out. Is there a way I could get that done?” And she was like maybe the lab can get it done. So come in anytime between 15wks and 20wks. 
That’s all I got...I don’t know how to feel. I feel angry and frustrated and hurt by being dismissed as if I was crazy for wanting to listen or see my baby after months? I don’t know maybe I’m just hormonal.

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You could maybe invest in a home Doppler to listen to baby’s heartbeat once in a while? Maybe it could give you a peace of mind to hear it

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I would find a doctor willing to see you. All of this is absolutely ridiculous. None of my appointments have been pushed back or canceled. There is no actual reason for it.

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While home dopplers can be helpful they also cause a lot of stress if you’re untrained and not sure what you should be listening for. My doctor recommends women to steer clear of them as they can cause a lot of panic for no reason, or sometimes give women false hope. 
I had a MMC in 2018 and this pregnancy I’ve been constantly worried about the stretches of time between appointments. My first ultrasound was in the ER at 6 weeks because I was bleeding but then waited until 11 weeks to have one at my OB’s office. From there I had to wait until my 20 week scan and while this is a pretty average wait time when you’ve experienced a loss before it feels like the end of the world having to go that long without seeing baby. 
Have faith though mama, your body was made for this and most women go on to have very happy and healthy pregnancies after suffering from a loss. Worrying and stress are the worst things you can do to yourself and baby

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Covid aside, this is normal where I go. I’m high risk. I get a viability scan at 5 weeks to determine it’s not ectopic and then again closer to 7 weeks for a HB. After that, they just check with the Doppler and we don’t get scans until anatomy around 20 weeks. If I wasn’t high risk, I would only have the anatomy scan. I’m sorry it’s weighing so heavily on you. Are any elective places still open?

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Are you going for regular appts? My midwife started listening to the doppler at 12 weeks. My last ultrasound was at 8 weeks. I’m now 20 weeks and go Monday for my anatomy ultrasound, but I’ve heard the heartbeat at every appt since I was 8 weeks.

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Be careful getting a Doppler. My dr has kept seeing my since I’m higher risk (I had 2 miscarriages last year one was a silent miscarriage at 16 weeks the other was at 8 weeks.) At my 13 weeks appointment my dr started trying to find the heartbeat on his Doppler (a really nice medical grade Doppler) and no luck I had to be brought into ultrasound to find the heart beat, same thing happened at my 16 weeks appointment. For some reason the dr. can’t get a heartbeat on the Doppler. I 100% understand your stress and anxiety after having a miscarriage! I would just hate for that anxiety to get worse because of the Doppler when everything is okay. I know I would loose my mind if I got a Doppler and couldn’t find the heart beat. Just my personal story and experiences I’m sharing. I hope all is well and healthy with your baby. 💗

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That’s crazy, I found out I was pregnant late. I confirmed with ultrasound and I was already 15 weeks and they wanted me to come in again at 17 weeks for an OB workout up and another ultrasound. But due to a fever they sent me home. My next appointment is on April 22nd which would put be at just below 20 weeks but they gave me a schedule of prenatal appointments and that seems like a truly long time especially since you had a silent miscarriage in your prior pregnancy which I’m sorry that you had to experience. This is my first pregnancy and I’m like I have no idea what’s going on as it is. Add in the covid-19 scare and it’s a process for sure, I go to a private obgyn clinic and not a hospital and they take ￼ precautions. 
What state or province are you located in?

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Ekk...I had my 16 week appt no problem and will have my 20 week appt as well. My ob is not in the hospital it's self so maybe that makes a difference. 
With that said you are supposed to have a 12 week US to look for downs and trisomy. I'm truly shocked you haven't been seen again!

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Ya I agree, if you feel concerned about your mental health over this, maybe it’s best to get a home Doppler for your own sanity.

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I agree that dopplers can cause stress if you’re not use to using them. But I also agree they’re a great invention. I have one and I use it to keep peace of mind between appointments since I can’t feel baby yet. But remember that hearing a heart beat doesn’t always mean things are going great. I wouldn’t use it as a way to medically think things are okay but more of a bonding thing with the baby

No ultrasound for almost 3 months?

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