Let me start out by saying I’m 19, and live with my mother and grandparents (we take care of my grandparents.)

I pay my own bills, I help with groceries, and anything else that needs to be done. If I wanted to be, I could be fully independent, but I choose not to be at the moment, because my grandparents are old and need assistance with their daily lives.

But anyways.

Back in January, I started dating this guy. He’s almost 22. Sweetest, most affectionate guy ever. Did all the little things and constantly had me swept off of my feet.

He met my parents, we got close, blah blah blah.

When it came to meeting his though, he was hesitant. I recently met his dad, and still haven’t met his mom. Even though they all live together.

Now, In April, he has changed. He is not very affectionate. He stopped doing the little things, and depends on his parents for mostly everything in his life aside from hobbies.

They’re even paying his 20k+ college tuition and dorming. His parents “don’t believe in medication” so they control what his doctor gives him, everything like that.

What the fuck? Am I crazy for thinking this is absolutely absurd?

Update 1: his parents aren’t religious, more spiritual if anything. And I’ve tried discussing the affection part, and he says okay, he’ll try, but never does.