Sleep help please !!

My 9 month old used to sleep through the night for 10-12 hours straight, until January. Then she started waking 3-4 times a night, would nurse for a few minutes then fall back asleep. Fast forward to now, she still wakes up 3-4 times a night but won’t go back to sleep in her own bed! I’ll get her back to sleep then lay her down and she instantly wakes up screaming. I give it 3-4 tries before I give up and put in bed with us , but then I’m up almost all night because I’m so nervous that she’s sleeping with us that I wake up every 10 minutes to check on her. Anytime I put her to sleep she has to lay next to me and nurse, it’s a bad habit I regret starting because now my husband can’t even help put her to sleep. We’ve tried the Ferber method several times, each for a week, and all she does is scream the entire time, like shaking, hyperventilating, screaming. I’m at a loss of what to do, and I desperately need some decent sleep!!! Please help!