I can feel myself starting to spiral a little this week and I dont like it. When you start how do you ground yourself?

I've been waking up at 430am so that I'm off work around noon because we have our son home full time in quarantine. My brothers are living with us for a while and they stay up until about 4am every night and sleep into the afternoon. My husband works 1 hour a day 930-1030, so hes taken to staying up with my brothers at least half the time which I'm trying really hard not to dictate to him about. Our son has had issues with peeing through his diapers, because he goes to bed with a bottle, and my husband doesnt get up around 2am when it happens to change him because 'he cant see without his contacts in', which I know is an excuse I just dont have the energy to argue about it.

I'm also trying to get a new business off the ground that would allow me to stay home with our son full time, virtual bookkeeping, which is sucking up more time.

Anyway, this week the laundry isnt done, the cats have peed on the floor in front of their litter box more than once, the living room is messy, the dishes aren't done, and there is random trash all over every surface. I'm feeling overwhelmed but I feel like if I say something I'm the over bearing control freak. I just dont have the energy to keep up with cleaning up after 4 other adults and work full time. This week I haven't gotten up on time for work and my husband said something about it this morning...'you should probably get up soon. You sleeping in changes the whole plan for the day'. I sunk a little deeper this morning.