Hey guys, so I’m 21, have had 2 sexual partners (my ex and my boyfriend) and I have never orgasmed in my life .I mean I can make myself orgasm but nobody else can even though I shouldn’t really say “nobody” because I’ve only been with two people in my life . My ex was a virgin and so was I , so I guess we were just both inexperienced. With my ex, I did not enjoy doing anything.. AT ALL.. , I mean from kissing to sex , argh, just regrets .. But my current boyfriend , he’s experienced and he’s never not made any girls that he’s been with, not finish .. apart from me. Our first kiss was magical , he’s the first person that made me feel some type of way, like butterflies and daydreaming kind of good . And then we had sex and it was just painful, it’s like having sex for the first time again but that’s it, it was just painful and no pleasure or orgasm . At first I was like it’s alguds, I love him but then it’s been two years and I feel like it’s kind of affecting my life now and I kind of don’t want to live my life wondering if I will ever be able to orgasm. He knows this and he tries his absolute best . we’ve tried everything, different position, I’ve tried to relax , I’ve “tried” to try to cum, but nothing. He even bought me a vibrator and he can’t use that on me , but I can in my own time? Like I’m just so confused . when we have sex, I don’t have that increasing feeling of the urge to cum, I just feel ... normal . when he goes down on me , I just feel normal like someone’s licking me but that’s about it ... Or when he uses his fingers , or play with my clit , it just gets too sensitive and not in a good way so I have to make him stop. I’ve squirted a few times but I don’t enjoy it, I just have that “ need to pee” sensation so I stopped trying that. I don’t want you guys to think “oh maybe she just doesn’t like sex” but I do, I mean I get horny and want to have sex and daydream about being able to orgasm but when I do have sex, it’s the same story. And as time goes by, I start getting moody and having sex start feeling like a chore and that I have to please him when I see him . He doesn’t force me to have sex with him but he gets turned on every time we’re together and it’s sad to just let him have blue balls. Is anyone having problem reaching orgasm as well or is it just me ? Let me know pls x I’m hoping at least one of you guys at least had this problem and then found a cure so I can have some hope for the future . Thank you in advance 💋👉🏼🥺👈🏼

Additional information since this is gonna be posted anonymously and I don’t think I would be able to reply to comments? So here it is

- I don’t get orgasm from using my fingers either , I can only orgasm from one position and that’s lying on my stomach ( sorry, so detailed 😭) and I have to be horny so either thinking about something or watching something .

- Sometimes when we have sex , I feel like my inside hurts , like some sort of cramps

- His size isn’t small, id say bigger than average

- He can last from 3 mins to half an hour so not “lasting” long enough for me to reach orgasm isn’t a problem . In fact, I actually get annoyed when he lasts too long coz it just starts getting sore and I just want it to be done .

That’s all I can think of now, xx