So my boyfriend and I are in a unique situation, we were planning on moving in together at the end of August when his lease was up. He was going to move in with me and my roommate, then we would move into our own apartment when my lease was up next March.

Unexpectedly, my lease manager didn’t file the paper work so my lease is up now. Now, I’m moving in with my boyfriend and his roommate and he wants us to look for a place and move in officially together in August. This timeline is way sped up for me and i’m slightly freaking out.

It gets worse.

My boyfriend is finishing school, and was supposed to take his exam to get licensed in June. Due to the pandemic, all testing centers have been suspended until August at the earliest and we have no idea when he will get his real job. He has a tech job where he works weekends, and lives mostly off of loans. I’m sure he doesn’t have a great savings and his credit is poor.

I feel very uncomfortable about supporting us and paying for our place mostly by myself. This plan is not what I wanted or anticipated and I’m scared of having to mix all of our financials and legally put our names together on a lease much earlier than we originally planned.

I feel like a bitch because he was supposed to have his high-paying job by June or July and obviously that is not going to happen. He was going to take over the majority of our bills while I focused on finishing school. The roles are reversed now and the future seems very unclear to me—financially.

I am panicking and would just like advice as to how to bring this up in a nice way, and if it is completely unfair of me to not want to support him fully even though he was going to do that for me?