What people don’t understand about helping someone with depression

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TW!! *disclaimer: I do not speak for everyone. I speak for myself and whoever may relate* 
Phrases that DO NOT HELP: 
“It’ll get better” -or it could get worse. Much worse. And who cares about it getting better if you’re dead. 
“Someone out there loves you” - you don’t know that. Some people literally have no one. Some people sadly don’t care that much how it effects the people in their lives.
“I know you don’t know me but I love you. I’ll miss you if you’re gone”  -this literally means nothing to me. I appreciate the concern but how the hell can you love or miss someone you have never met. 
Worst of all: “please get help” - ITS NOT THAT EASY! Not everyone has access to a therapist. Some people have really bad experiences with therapy/meds It’s not for everyone.  
 
All in all NOTHING you say to someone GENUINELY considering suicide will change their minds. Ive been suicidal since I was SEVEN YEARS OLD! I’m 16 now. It doesn’t get better. The only reason I haven’t done it yet is because I’m too much of a pussy. I’m waiting for it to get bad enough. 
Again: I don’t speak for everyone. I appreciate anyone trying to help. I’m just letting you know you can’t fix mental illness with a overused catchy phrase.

Answer

I totally emphasize with you babe! I’m 21 and have had a pressing mental health journey too. When I was in elementary school I thought it was normal to want to die and I’d pray that I would go to heaven. When my parents started realizing something was off they would always say catchy phrases because it made them feel like they were doing their part. I think people who love you or care about you (even at the smallest level as another human being) want to give input partly because it makes them feel good and sometimes that’s okay because depression is no fucking joke and if you don’t have it you cannot understand it. Even as another human who has depression, I cannot understand your emotions or hurt, those are yours. But it’s nice to know that someone wants to put forth energy to encourage you (even if it’s lame and cringey). If you don’t have access to therapy please feel free to message me at anytime! You don’t deserve to feel alone. And no matter how cringe or catch-phrase like this sounds- you are so strong for holding on! Depression is a pain in the ass. It’s not cute or trendy or romantic. It doesn’t make you any more or less valid as an emotional being. It can’t be cured with encouragement. That’s just the hard truth. But beyond that truth is the fact that no one comes out victoriously from the chains of depression without being a badass with a capacity for empathy and wisdom that most don’t have. Depression is usually the tip of the iceberg and I’m sure there a million other things that just egg it on and add to the suffering. You don’t deserve to have your emotions and reality dumbed down to some 2012 tumblr girl quote.

What people don’t understand about helping someone with depression

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