Anal and fisting

So last night me and my so tried to do anal right well I let him do it because he wanted to try it and i did too well we didn't get to because it hurt so bad I pulled away from him and said please don't touch me for a second i felt bad i want to be able to do anal without it hurting so much any tips and advise. And we also tired fisting and that hurt kinda i kinda screamed lol but i want to also do that without hurting so much too the pornstars make it look so easy but it not but any tips and advise would be nice thank you