I don’t really have anyone to talk to so here goes..

SO and I have been together for 5 years now (living together for nearly 3) and I just feel like he’s getting sick of me. Am I being paranoid?

I know that the “honeymoon phase” ended ages ago. But we still had a great time together and I never felt the way I do now.

He’s generally a quiet and reserved person, and like to go with the flow on most things.

It’s like everything I do annoys him at the moment. I try to do exciting things and bring the spark back, but he is always full of excuses. Typically “too tired”.

He works long days (7-5pm m-f) and I work full time too (9-5pm m-f), so I know that we’re both exhausted at the end of the day.

Our sex life is basically non existent (pain problems on my end). He says he feels guilty after having sex with me because he knows it causes me to hurt for a little while. And I’m no expert, but feeling guilty after sex cannot be good for a relationship 🙄

The whole situation just makes me feel so awful.

I know he loves me, and I love him too. But I just can’t help feeling like he’s pulling away and it’s my fault for always pushing for more.

I try talking to him about it but it just makes him upset that I think we are having problems - I guess he sees no issues?

But I can’t help but worry that he’s just saying that just so we don’t have to talk about it.

Heeeeeelp. 😣