Not feeling respected.

Not being funny but why take the risk of going to meet your friends..... you are meant to be self isolating and only going out for essentials not socializing. I'd hate to hear of another pregnant woman having to have an emergency c section then dying and the baby being brought up without a mother. As for the questions... you are the mama, you make the rules and screw what everyone else thinks.

The first one is fine. Most baby’s don’t starting trying other foods until six months anyway. And as far as anyone else coming over. Tell your mom and bf no one else can come over and to keep the door locked. If people come ohhh well you told them not too. They can stand outside or go home.

Well the first one is normal... they don’t recommend food til 6m anyways. If you cannot trust these people don’t leave your child with them 🤷🏼‍♀️. Also if you don’t want visitors you don’t have too! Lock the door & say sorry not today if they come over after you’ve said no. While I do agree to a point that you need to trial & error learning your child, you can definitely do that while your mom is there. Its good to have extra support so maybe you can catch a quick nap here & there to get a bit of sleep

You are the mom so you get the say what happens with your kid and let them show up just don’t open the door 🤷🏾‍♀️ if they can’t accept it then they are not your friend. I’m pregnant with my first as well and I mean it when I say nobody better not kiss my child cause imma be the rude person that’ll take my kid and go wash his face and ask you to leave 🤷🏾‍♀️ we see so many kids getting sick over someone that’s not the parent kissing them. Especially when I go out I’m gonna be yelling at people to get out my child’s face too. You aren’t wrong the baby shouldn’t be eating other food until 5 months or so After I give birth my mom’s gonna be helping me there’s nothing wrong with that

First off, it's "your" baby not theirs. You make the rules. You can't let negativity like that bother you. You already have your plan in place so stick with it plain and simple. You don't need anybody else's approval. I already said no one will be around my baby for a while except me, my baby's father, or my mama and I'll have to have my mom around cause her dad works nights and I know my mama will help me catch a nap and shower and eat if I need her to. No one will be kissing on her or any of that. I'll send pictures. It's just too much going on with RSV,the corona virus, and other health issues they can develop so I'm not taking chances and everyone understands that. If they decide to come by after you told them not too then ohhh well that's going to be on them. 🤷🏽🤷🏽 Y'all don't have to answer the door. Some people just must think babies are like toys or something but they are not. They need to be protected really well especially in the first few months so don't even worry about it mama. Now I'd be concerned if you didn't care but you do so lol. Tbh my phone will probably be on silent for a long time unless it's something really important.

You’re friends are wrong. All of your desires are normal. My sister breastfed until 6 months. I feel like 6 months is when you start introducing solids, but not really before. Plus who cares if you want your mom to help? And also I think you should have time for you as a family to learn about the baby before having constant visitors. It kinda sounds like your friend is being a know-it-all or she’s jealous because she wasn’t able to do those things with her baby. Weird. Ignore these comments. I agree with you!

1. If I remember correctly, pediatricians don't recommend introducing solids until around 6 months. Baby's tummy isn't ready to process it yet, and wouldn't absorb any nutrition anyway. Your friends are wrong, ask your doctor and play it by ear. It's different for everyone and doesn't always go as planned.2. Having your MIL there is an incredible bonding experience for both you and your MIL, and your baby and her grandma. I think that's a beautiful way to establish your family and I would've LOVED to have my MIL there if she wasn't working when I had my daughter. It'll take some pressure off you and the household and allow you a chance to bond and get more comfortable! It doesn't mean you aren't capable of doing it yourself-- but what new mom would refuse help?3. I wouldn't blame you for having no visitors right now! Baby's health and your health and bonding and healing is more important than anyone else getting to meet the baby. They don't have rights to your child, you're the momma. Put your foot down and establish your authority now. I told my family NOBODY would be allowed until I said so and that anybody who had a problem with that didn't need to be around my daughter anyway. 🤷🏼 I come from a family with very little respect for boundaries, but they all knew I wasn't the one to mess with, and ultimately have respected all of my decisions so far. If they want a relationship with my daughter, they don't have a choice but to respect me as a mother! Much love, girl. It'll all fall into place. ❤

All three of those things are totally normal. I did all three with my first and plan to do them with this baby. (With the caveat that I sincerely hope my mom can make it with everything going on, and like other people said, that no one other than that will probably be able to come over this time).

All of those are normal and thing I personally plan to do as well. The point is, this is your baby and you can do what you want because you are the mom not your friends. I would go ahead and make that very clear before the baby gets here.