She Needs Help

I apologize is advance for the length of this post.

My best friend of 26yrs is not the mother I'd hope she'd be and her precious babies are suffering. She got with this young boy when he was only 16 and she was 23. She moved in with him and his family who for obvious reasons, didn't approve of their relationship. They eventually had a son and their situation went from bad to worse.

They then broke up or rather, he kicked her out and told her it was over. Somehow they got back together and had another child. Shortly after they broke up again and ended up in court because he refused to give her the children. The courts decided on visitation which didn't go as planned.

One day she called me and said that she had the kids at her mom's and she believed her little brother (5) at the time was touching her 1yr of daughter inappropriately so she's leaving. She moved in with the children's father again.

He didn't want her talking to me because he and I had it out when she was having an emergency c-section at 6mnths pregnant with the little girl, and he came onto me when I went to pick up her hospital bag from his mother's house. Anyway, that's another story for another time. Bottom line is she chose his side and we stopped talking when she moved back to him.

A year later she called me to say that child services had removed the kids from their home because of fights between her, his cousin who moved in and pulled a knife on her. She said that he raped her and put a gun to her head, threatening to kill her and the kids. She didn't call the cops, the cousin did but she told them that she was abusing the kids and was mentally unstable. All this time she was pregnant with a third child.

She moved into her own apartment following the court orders to undergo mental evaluation, parenting classes and anger management. She never mentioned the abuse she dealt with at the hands of the father and his family members, so he didn't have to do anything.

While the kids were in foster care she gave birth and child services removed the child from the hospital. For some strange reason she moved the guy into her apartment saying that she was lonely. The furniture my husband and I bought and installed in her place was thrown out by him. The court didn't know he was living there and she got the kids back. He would hide every time the acs worker came around.

Again, things changed. Apparently the baby father had another girl he was seeing and she showed up to the house to pick him up. After a huge fight where police got involved again...he moved out . Shortly after she received an eviction letter, apparently he wasn't paying the rent as she thought and instead he was taking her money and giving it to his girlfriend. With alot of begging and borrowing she was able to come to an arrangement with the landlord to make payments.

They ended up back in court again for visitation. So far it's been months and he goes on to do whatever he wants. He said that she was harassing him and got a restraining order. He then made claims that she was abusing their daughter so the court knowing her history (lies he made up that she didn't deny) they gave him the little girl but left the two sons in her care. I know, it makes no sense but that's how she told me the story.

Now, he took the boys 3 weeks ago for his visit and never returned them to her. She can't call or show up to his house because of the restraining order. This is where it gets really bad. Her mother also has visits with the kids and said that lately she noticed that the little girl is wetting the bed and using the rest room more than normal. She's acting strange and said that her father touched her down there. The grandmother said that she noticed some bruising. Instead of calling the authorities though, she called the acs worker who said she'd look into it. The acs worker may have known the father prior to having this case and she never responds to any phone calls or emails from my friend but whenever the guy calls her with a claim she runs with it. My friend though never took my advice and contacted her manager smh.

I asked her why not contact the police herself or call a hotline, to at least get the child taken to be evaluated and for examination to rule out or confirm abuse. She said she's waiting for the acs worker. Now, nothing was done, the worker actually closed the case, the children are still off with the father and she still haven't seen her kids in weeks.

This is really just a compact version of all the bullshit going on. I'm so worried about those kids and attempted to call in the abuse myself but I don't have his address, which I need. I did however, give his name though.I'm hoping someone does something to help those children. Their mother doesn't seem to care enough to fight. Their father would do anything in his power to hurt the mother and their grandparents are useless.

I don't know what else to do, I can't very well take the children from them but honestly I believe somebody should. They're not good parents and the kids are the only ones suffering. She'd rather have him than fight for her children. She's so desperate for the white picket fence life that she's refusing to see him for who he is. However, at this point though I don't give a rat's ass if she wants to keep bringing him back into her life only to have him fuck her over again and again, I'm just worried about those 3 innocent babies.