So long story short, my grandmother has custody of my niece since she was a toddler, she’s now 7. She’s on the low end of the spectrum for autism so that makes my grandmother shelter her, as in she usually gets what she wants. Yesterday we came over and she is always mean to our two year old.. For example; She’ll be swinging he’ll be walking infront and she will try to hit him, she doesn’t include him activities with her 3 year old brother that my mother has custody of, snatch toys from him, I’ve seen her lay sharp or chockable objects near him for him to possibly put in his mouth. Like I literally have to be around her with him 24/7 I don’t trust her. Yesterday he was wanting to play with the guitar she had and he doesn’t communicate fully yet so he didn’t “please” asking if he could hold it, she aggressively says no gets her brother to help her snatch, she’s pulling it aggressively out of his hands to where She could possibly have hurt him. Any toy that she has she won’t share with him. My husband pulls it out of her hands with how aggressive she’s being and my grandma says How old are you 30? Pulling it out of her hands? He says she is always being mean to our kid that’s why he never wants to come over here. Well he finally gets the guitar and my grandmother tells her come inside lets grab something else and then she walks out crying after a few mins and says I can’t bring any toys out because all of y’all will take them from me. I questioned grandma about it and they got super defensive saying they didn’t say that and how childish my husband was for pulling the guitar away from her and our son. He said while she was pulling her face was like she was wanting to punch our toddler because everyone she’d crunch up her nose. He told my grandma no one ever wants to get onto her for being mean to him, So we left and now everyone is mad at each other. Was my husband wrong?