Asking boyfriend to finish myself off after sex? Please read before answering!

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Please help. So i have never cum from a male before just from self clitoral stimulation, my partner does a wonderful job in bed (best sex!) But I can never cum and was wondering if it would be rude or wrong of me to have a conversation about maybe finishing myself off or having him help and maybe learn what I like and how I do it??

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Not wrong at all. If you can have sex together, then you should be able to discuss it. It's actually a very common thing for women

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You need to talk to him. 
When my husband and I first started dating, sex was all about him and would only last for maybe 5 minutes if that. One day after we had sex, I went to the bathroom, like usual, to clean up and sat on the toilet and cried. When I walked out the bathroom, he knew I had been crying and asked me why. I told him that I feel like sex is suppose to be intimate and that he could careless about me. From that day forward, he makes sure I get off every time before he does, which makes sex last longer too.

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Why would it be rude or wrong? Your pleasure is just as important- sex is not just for men. You should be clear, honest and open from the first sexual experience you have with a partner and every one following. Sit down with your partner and tell him you do not orgasm during sex. It’s extremely common for women to need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Talk to him about how YOU orgasm. 
If you cannot be honest about sex, your body and everything in between with your partner you shouldn’t be having sex.

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Or maybe work on getting you off before he finishes? A lot of women who have terrible climaxing work on getting their orgasms during foreplay and then the sex can be for their partner's satisfaction.

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Honestly I brought this up when I first started having sex with my SO. Now he makes sure I get off before him. Open communication always makes for better sex!

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My husband stops in the middle of sex to try and make me finish if he knows he’s going to finish soon, sex shouldn’t just be about him!

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Have the conversation, I was just like you I had never had a man be able to make me climax and always had to use clitoris stimulation. Once I started dating my now husband I had a talk with him about it and he has done everything from research to getting me a vibrator to get me to that point. It’s worth being open and honest because then your both happy, he can help you while you finish.

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If I don’t finish by the time my boyfriend does then he will help me finish. I don’t think it’s wrong or weird to ask that of him.

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I think the poll was a little confusing to answer because the title of your post said “asking my boyfriend to finish myself?” and then in your post you said “is it wrong?”. So I voted “yes” that you should ask him and talk to him. Everyone should be sexually pleased! Nothing wrong with voicing your desires.

Asking boyfriend to finish myself off after sex? Please read before answering!

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