Anyone ever felt guilty after having their second child?

Question

Is it normal for me to be feeling this way. I’m having mom guilt right now and it’s making me emotional. 😪 My son just came home from the nicu on Wednesday. He was born at 27 weeks and had to come home on oxygen. Meaning that I have to be with him most of the time because I am breastfeeding and I always have to monitor him. My first born is 13 months I’m not sure if she knows what’s going on right now since she’s still a little younger because before he came home it was just always me and her 24/7 me and my husband are always with my son and my mom is helping watching my daughter now. She was hugging me so tight yesterday for a long time and it just made me wanna cry. I cry so much just by thinking about it I just hope my baby girl knows I still love her to death😢

Answer

It's ok you are not alone. The very first month was the worst for me trying to juggle my time with a newborn and my daughter. I felt the same way after my son was born.   I felt like I hurt my daughter's  feelings.  Plus being sleep deprived and not getting to spend as much time as I was use to spending with her as before.  
My daughter is such a great sport but I could tell that her feelings were hurt. I just made sure that I told her that she will always be my baby no matter what, and I will always love her. She needed that reassurance because she was feeling second best. 
So I make sure to always include her in everything I do. She does a great job.  She loves helping me with her brother.  She is so proud to be a big sister. 
You just need to make sure to always make time for your first child. Give them lots of cuddles and even have just one on one time as much as you can.
 My husband will watch our son so that we can have girl time. Plus I've told my daughter if throughout the day if she feels like I've been really busy with the baby or household chores and she needs some girl time to always let me know.  That I'm here for her and I will always drop what I'm doing to have girl time. This has helped her so much.  I hope this helps and congratulations on both of you're children.

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Kids are so resilient!! You’re doing your best and your feelings are completely normal. Just enjoy those babies as much as you can and give yourself a break when possible. ❤️

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Yes, totally normal!!

Anyone ever felt guilty after having their second child?

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