Handling finances

My husband makes most of the money for our household. I work part time and use all my income for my student loans etc. the other days I’m home taking care of our baby.

We have separate accounts.

Due to him making the money, he wants to be in control of the finances. Mainly in the “bookkeeping” part. In my opinion we should both be in the loop on our finances.

I do however write all the checks for the bills etc since I have more time. But he wants to be in charge of like how much goes into savings, how much money he wants to give his family that are in a different country etc

In his viewpoint I’m not “suffering” from it or anything since he says I have access to all the money as well (have a credit card to it and check book etc) and he says I can buy whatever we need and whatever I want (obviously within reason etc). Do you think that’s enough to not “complain” about not handling the details? I’m very detail oriented and like keeping track of everything, but idk if he feels like I’m going to be the one that’s controlling “his money”?

Usually this situation is black and white when the out-spouse isn’t allowed to use the money etc. but Idk how to go about handling this kind of situation. He says it’s his money but he knows that it’s his responsibility to provide for us so I’m technically allowed to use it and he pays for all the bills, but is it also too much to ask for to also be in the loop financially??

I don’t have access to his accounts

I was debating becoming a SAHM but now I’m not so sure.