Sexless

Me and my guy have been together for two years and still madly in love. He is almost 29 (26 when we met) and I’m 23 (20 when we met).

We always had the best sex life. He is more experienced than me, me having only been with one other guy who was a Virgin, and it was amazing. He taught me a lot as I used to struggle with shame and pain during sex but with him it’s different. About a year ago, he had a skin rash so wouldn’t have sex with me until it healed a few weeks later because he was embarrassed. Ever since then, sex because rarer and rarer. Recently, we went almost two months without it which was hard because I have a high sex drive.

He refused to get help. Eventually I broke down and he agreed to sorta look into it but you could tell he was reluctant. I found pills to encourage drive but he wasn’t interested. He thinks it could be related to past cocaine or steroid abuse so won’t help for fear of the results (he doesn’t want to find out it is his fault for his problems for shame).

I just don’t know what to do. I’d never cheat. I offer both sexual solutions (like him just pleasuring me or me trying different things on him) as well as practical ones (like therapy or a doctor) he is interested in none of it. Any help?