First date - inform about medical issue, or no?

Question

I have a colostomy because of a medical emergency I had last year. I'm able to get the colostomy reversed but I have a lot going on legally with my ex, and no longer have health insurance so I'm unable to get the reversal just yet. Anyways, I'm supposed to go out on a first date with someone I've been talking to for about 10 days now, and my friends are telling me I should tell him about the colostomy before going. Their logic is if he's not into it, it's better to know now because if he lost interest over that I wouldn't want to be with him anyways A, and B that would show he's probably not a great guy. So now I'm super super bummed. I'm definitely insecure and embarrassed about having a colostomy. Should I tell him before going out with him, or should I just go out with him and tell him later on if we pursued dating further?

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I wouldn’t tell him yet. No need to put all your cards on the table right off the bat. You may not even want to pursue anything after the first date.

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I would tell him just to give a heads up. What if your out and he sees it or it leaks or something. My dad had one when I was 15 and I remember it leaking and he was so embarrassed. At least the guy won’t be shocked and he can managed his reaction beforehand instead of in the moment. The right guy won’t care if he really likes you for you

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I wouldn’t tell him anything yet. You don’t owe him anything. You may not even like him enough to want another date after this one.  I’d wait and see how it goes.

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You can always wait until before date 2. That way you can see if you even click in person before you tell him information you’re embarrassed about. If you wouldn’t want to get intimate until it’s gone I would mention that at the same time too. I do think it’s better to tell early rather than later.

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Wait.
I'd be so turned off by anyone giving me a blow by blow account of their medical history on date one. 
It's not necessary at this point. 
I dated someone with a colostomy bag for 3 years, due to severe Crohn's disease, I was not put off by that one bit, but had he of told me the minute I met him that he had one I'd have found it strange. 
Goodluck x

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I wouldn’t tell him until you determined if it was even worth pursuing

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I'd just mention it casually in conversation on the date. It's not a big deal and you're going to get it reversed anyways.

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I think it’s best to tell him upfront even though it’s none of his business. I feel like it’ll help you, just Incase he turns out to be some asshole because you have a colostomy bag, you would be able to see that from the jump and avoid catching feelings for an absolute asshole.

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It's literally the first date. If you pull that shit there won't be a second.

First date - inform about medical issue, or no?

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