Do you and your SO want sex at the same time?

Often, my husband is horniest in the middle of the night. I think he has horny dreams. He’ll randomly wake me up in the middle of the night, when I am SOUND asleep. Last night, I had a splitting headache, and just wandered out to the living room to get some Advil, and he was up watching tv, and he’s like: “Good, are you out here to give me a bj?”. He was all excited🙄. I said I’m getting a pill and going back to bed, and that I can’t even move my head, so I’m not in the mood, and told him he can take care of himself, if he wants. Pretty much any other time of the day or evening, I am in the mood for sex, but he rarely is. It is frustrating that we want sex at different times.