Starting solids

Really debating whether or not to do baby led weaning. The doctor gave us the ok to start purées at 4 months and LO has been loving every minute of it. He will top off /oz at breakfast and 4 oz at dinner time. We cant eat in peace anymore because he throws a fit, wanting whatever is on our plate. He’s definitely showing signs of being ready for baby led weaning, but I’m not sure if I can take the anxiety of being nervous he’s going to choke. We tried a banana yesterday and he did well, but I was hands on the whole time which I feel like defeats the purpose. But he shoves the whole thing in his mouth and I’m so afraid he will try and swallow it rather than spit it out.

My question is...if not baby led weaning, then what? How long do we do purées before starting him on little pieces of whatever we are eating? I’m just very confused on the whole thing. Thanks for the help!