SAHM! How do you and your partner divide chores/childcare?

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I know there are a lot of strong opinions on this, so please be kind! 
I'm a SAHM with a 6 month old. I do the majority of child care because I am breastfeeding. My husband cooks every day after work (or picks something up) and has since I was 8 weeks pregnant because cooking made me so sick I couldn't cook a whole meal without throwing up 2 or 3 times. When he gets home, he'll take her for a little while and we just swap off with her periodically while we're both home. We both clean (but I like to clean because sometimes he doesn't do it how I want it 😂) and I do the majority of laundry. He also grocery shops and has for 2-3 months because of COVID and he's an essential worker. He also does all of the outside things at home (we have a farm so there's a lot of bush hogging, plowing, mowing, etc.). I help when I can outside, but don't normally unless baby is asleep or I can help with her in a carrier. But any time I ask him to help with the baby, he does no problem. Never complains about how much he does. I plan on cooking more once our baby gets out of this "hold me" stage she's in. A lot of times I feel like he takes the majority of chores and feel kinda bad, but also I'm up all through the night and day and do the majority of child care and she's for sure a full time job and a half. Especially when I have to stop what I'm doing every 2.5 hours to feed her.
How do you other SAHM divide chores with your partner?

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I do most of the hose work and child care but once he gets home it equal work between the two of us. He worked all day and so did I so it’s equally dived when we are both home. 😊 if that makes sense? 😅

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My husband does the “man chores” like the yard and home/car repairs. He cleans up after himself (for the most part🤦‍♀️), helps fold a load of laundry if he’s home, sometimes he’ll scrub the bath tub for me during our weekly cleaning day. If I’m not feeling well every now and then, he’ll do my morning routine (vacuum floors, start yesterday’s laundry and get the toddler dressed) without being asked. Other than that, the older kids and I do the housework. The kids do the dishes every night, clean the bathrooms weekly, dust, and take out the trash. I do the floors every morning (mop twice a week), one load of laundry per day and extra loads for bedding and miscellaneous items on our weekly deep clean day. I wipe down the kitchen and dining room every evening after the kids go to bed so we wake up to a sparkling clean kitchen. That’s what works for us and I’m grateful for the stuff my husband does do, especially when an appliance breaks or the house needs repair because my husband will come home after work and fix it right away without being nagged. I feel like it’s a team effort to keep our household running well.

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I do all of the housework cause my husband works 12-14 hours a day and I don’t expect him to do that. He does all of the outside work, and I do most of the childcare cause he’s normally at work, but when he’s home he takes the baby to spend as much time with him as he can while I cook and take my shower and stuff!

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My husband works nights. 3 days out of the week so most of the week he takes care of our daughter while I’m at work and on fridays when he just got home from work that morning I either take our daughter to work with me or I stay home that day lately I’ve been staying home so We can avoid our daughter to maybe being exposed to COVID. I do all of the cleaning, and most of the cooking, every once in a while my husband will cook. I don’t mind doing all the cleaning cause it kinda relaxes me and I like having a clean house. My husband is switching to days at his job so starting next week my daughter will come to work with me Wednesday Thursday and Friday and my husband will still stay home with her Monday and Tuesday.

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The only chores we share are the farm ones, I take care of the animals during the day and he cares for them at night and also during the weekends, unless he works on a Saturday, he works in construction so usually he is pretty tired. He does help setting up the table, but I take care of the rest, not because he doesn't do it but because I enjoy doing it. While I clean up he plays with the kids.

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I do all the house work he leaves at 4 and comes back around dinner time. Helps put the kids to bed then that's it weekends he usually lazy haha and I watch the kids while hes not home then we raise them together while he is. And I have times he stays with the kids so i can help my grandmother out or i use to go out with my best friend till covid happened

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I do all of the chores I clean everyday because I like it and if I go a day without the whole house is a disaster (weird lol ) I do most of the cooking usually but there are times as well right now that he does the cooking too. He's working a few hours a day so he's off most of the day, I have the baby most of the day and at night he'll watch him while I take a shower or take a nap. My baby is up alot of the night but he has his nights where he sleeps a good 6-7 hours so I'm good during the day when he does. There was a time where I was doing all of the cooking/cleaning and caring for our son but I threw a fit because he was just chillin all day while I pulled all the weight, he got way better though I'm happy!

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We have a good mix really. There are meals I cook and meals he cooks. He does dishes 70% of the time ( more so atm because my hands are dry and cracked *key worker*) 
He does the bins 🤮
I clean bathroom
Other than that we are a team and work together 😌 
He calls me a scruffy sod on a daily basis because I am 😂 
I’m messy but clean, he’s tidy but doesn’t know where the duster lives 😂

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We don’t really “divide” anything. We just help each other as needed, no complaints and no annoyance. We understand that we are a team and we work as one. 🤷🏼‍♀️ he works 8-5, and I am a SAHM, so I take care of our daughter all throughout the day, then when he gets home he helps with her while I cook or he cooks while I continue keeping her. But I don’t think in either of our minds it’s really a shift, it’s just raising your child together and helping your spouse when they need it.

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My husband works 80+ hours a week. I do most of the cleaning. Definitely the laundry because I like it done a certain way 😂 and I do the cooking because God bless this man but he tried to cook for me once... 🤢 no... So while I do most of the house chores (except for outside because bugs 😐) he hangs out with the kids, takes them outside to play gets them down for a nap etc... 
I’d say we’re pretty 50/50, we make an excellent team and if I ever said to him “husband, do you mind doing this for me?” He’ll do it with no hesitation 🤗

SAHM! How do you and your partner divide chores/childcare?

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