I’m curious, how involved are your husbands with taking care of your kids? Mine comes home from work, goes in the garage, works on his own projects, watches YouTube videos, runs out to the store etc. He NEVER takes it upon himself to just come home and say hi to our 2 year old and take her outside to play so I can get some things done. I’ll try to balance it all and then usually reach my breaking point and ask him to come in and watch her for a bit, and he’ll do it but as soon as I’m done doing what I have to do he slips back outside. And when I get to this point, I’m usually overwhelmed so I kind of snap at him, and then he gets to say how “mean” I am and that’s why he doesn’t want to be inside. When he does watch her, he might play with her for a few minutes and then he’ll put on a show for her and do what he wants. Or he just lets her follow him as he does what he wants. It’s never like he’ll stop what he’s doing and take her to the park or beach or something, because that’s not what he wants to do. I’m so sick of it. I’ve talked to him about it 100000 times and it gets me nowhere, except us arguing. My daughter deserves better, she loves him so much and wants only him once he gets home (I’m a SAHM at the moment so she’s with me all day). And forget about me, he’ll let me take a bath or go to the store and watch her but I have to tell him to. He would never just tell me to do it and say “hey babe I got her, go take a break”. He doesn’t think I need a break because I “sit home” all day while he works. I know he could be worse, but he could be better. It’s not what I signed up for. My standards are higher. Yea I told him this too, he doesn’t care. And I don’t want to just pick up and leave because my daughter loves him so much, I just don’t want her to start to realize that I have to force her father to want to be with her. We NEVER do anything fun on the weekends as a family. If we do something like take a family walk to the park he looks miserable the whole time and can’t wait to leave. Maybe he’s just not a “family man” like I thought he was. He used to be so good with his nieces when I first met him, and I loved how fun he was and good with kids. But he’s just all about himself now and I literally feel like we’re roommates. I barely see him, he keeps his distance, does what he wants, sees me struggling and won’t do anything unless I ask for help. There’s no intimacy, no flirting, no affection, no sex. Nothing. He flipped this switch and I just feel like he can’t stand us. I just don’t know what to do from here since ive literally talked to him about it SO many times I’m sick of it. Am I just expecting too much? How involved are your husbands/SO’s with your kids?