What do I do?

Question

What do I do if I feel I’m a bad mom I have a 2 year old and a 4 month baby I’m having trouble my daughter don’t want to eat good she’s has not gained her weight she’s suppose to my son has just been acting up today I went to the store and bought all these activity’s to play with him and he just did not pay attention to me I got all sad because I was all excited we were going to play together i just feel so stressed my 2 year old really don’t talk I feel he’s always in a bad mood my daughter I’m having trouble with her eating I just feel drained sometimes I never have  free time I don’t have any friends I don’t go out I’m 24/7 with my kids is it ok to feel drained is it ok to feel that I’m a bad mom to just sit there and cry
I also feel bad about my weight since I had my daughter my stomach looks like I’m still pregnant I just feel so self conscious of myself I feel so ugly I just don’t feel like myself and it hurts 😢

Answer

You’re not alone. I’m also struggling with a 2 year old who seems to throw an excessive amount of tantrums and refuses to eat the good food I’ve cooked for her. I’ve got a 5 month old who has terrible reflux and lately just seems miserable the majority of the time. Doesn’t want me to put her down and refuses to be with anyone else. We’re still in quarantine so I’m not seeing other people and my husband is on nights so we he works many nights and sleeps all day. I’m struggling with the weight because I keep consuming too much sugar as it’s the only thing keeping me somewhat sane. I cried for a good 45 minutes today because they were both crying, my toddler over something so silly. 
You’re not alone.

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It's completely ok to feel overwhelmed. You have two kids, it's overwhelming most of the time. It's also ok that you've still got some extra weight, it took 9 months to get to that point, it'll probably take at least that long to get it off. Give yourself some grace. 
I have a 3 year old and 5 month old. Most days, by bedtime, I feel like I'm going to rip my hair out. I don't know what your situation is as far as the father but if he or someone in your family can watch the kids for you so that you can get out of the house by yourself, I think you'll find that it will do a lot for you. I usually wait until I've fed my 5 month old and she's just gone down for a nap and then I leave them with my husband. Usually for like 40mins to an hour. You'll be amazed what that can do for your outlook. Just a little bit of time for yourself can feel amazing. And having time away from your kids so that you get a chance to miss them does a lot too. I always think of that saying that goes something like "you can't fill their cup if yours is empty". In other words, your kids need you and you'll be a better mom to them if you're feeling better.

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