Guys.

Has anyone been through a social investigation regarding custody battle?

How did it work for you?

My husband's ex is claiming he's a bad parent since I've gotten pregnant. (pure jealousy)

He's not a bad parent and we're good to the kids.

But I've been reading a lot of online stories where people claim the kids have been taken away without a valid reason or because one of the parents was lying about the other and they just took that as truth. And that's exactly what she does.

So I'm worried..

How does such an investigation work?

My husband said they will come over unannounced.. But that's all I know..

Like.. Will they be asking questions..

Will they come over when the kids are here?

What if we're not home?

What if I'm having a bad day with my pregnancy and I can't really engage with the kids (I'm 8 months pregnant and it's getting harder bit by bit) or worse.. What if they come right after the baby is born and the house is a bit of a mess because we're getting used to life with a newborn...?

Also.. If they decide we're bad parents based on the lies she tells them..

Will they be able to take our baby away from us?

*also posted in "parenting" and "parenting & family" * I would like as much as possible experiences and nuances so I can kind of imagine a couple of scenarios..

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@Macky

Both parents have a lawyer and it's a good thing a social study comes because we want the truth to come out. Just that I've read that they might not always be objective is what worries me, that they might get onboard of his ex's lies.

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As updated in the parenting & family group

- (regarding Summer updated that they could take it seriously if she lies about abuse)

@Summer

She did unfortunately.. More than once.

She sent him messages where she was refusing to give the kids because they were scared of him. But she obviously wanted to give him the kids the next day because she had something planned...

But the kids told him the next day they weren't scared, they were forced by their mom to pretend to be scared so she could use that against him in court.

Her lawyer didn't want the kids to be interviewed either, but my husband asked them (our lawyer and via our lawyer the court) to have the kids interviewed because both them and their mom say very very different things. She claims she's only acting on the kids' wishes and they tell us very very different things. Her own mother tells my husband that the kids are very vocal about missing us and their mother gets very angry at them if they say such a thing.

The grandmother cannot be involved in the custody battle because it wouldn't be fair to go against her own daughter, but she doesn't agree with what her daughter is doing and is warning my husband about his ex's tricks.