hey y’all! 💛 so i started dating a personal trainer at my gym about 4months ago.

a little background on us: we would see each other at the gym all the time but never talked, this went on for almost a year until your girl made the first move and asked him for the ankle straps lol. after that we would say hi to each other every day and have small conversations in between my gym sessions. he then asked for my social media accounts and my phone number, took him like a day or two for him to ask me out on a date. we were recently talking about what his first impressions of me was just because he would ALWAYS stare at me and look for me when i was at the gym (but yet he never bothered to shoot his shot). he began to say that he noticed that every guy at the gym wanted me, even his coworkers so he never bothered to talk to me. he didn’t like that i was receiving so much attention and he also didn’t want to feel like he had to compete with anyone.

because gyms are finally opening up, we started working out together again. i went to the gym w him last night and we noticed that the gym was fuller than usual but that didn’t stop me or bother me. (i’ve dealt with a gym full of guys before and i almost never pay attention to anything or anyone when i’m working out). by the time we were done working out i was drenched in sweat, and i noticed that he seemed really bothered. i asked him what was wrong and he said, “i just want to get out of this gym, i’m going to cancel the membership. everyone’s so fucking weird here.” i didn’t know what to say so all i said was “ok”. we got back to the car and i asked him what was wrong. he told me he was upset because the whole time we were working out, every guy in their was staring at me. not glancing but staring for more than a minute. he said he knew what these guys were thinking and that’s what gets him mad. i understand that it’s annoying but it’s not like i ask for the attention. you guys, i go to the gym FULLY dressed. never wear crop tops, hardly wear shorts, never just wear a sports bra (if i wear one, i have a shirt over it). i don’t want him to feel upset over this because this literally happens at every gym that i go to. it’s something that i got used to so i don’t even pay attention to it cause i strictly go to the gym to workout. i’m not there to talk to anyone or make friends with people and he knows that. so my question to you guys is, is this a red flag? is he just being over protective? or do you think this has something to do with his insecurities? i have mixed feelings about this but let me know what you think ladies!!