I want another baby but idk if I’m ready

I have a 7 year old & a 17 month old. I have 2 1/2 years left of college before I start my teaching career. In my state, teachers do not get maternity leave. If you want to take off work after having a baby, you have to use your saved up sick days. Obviously I’m not going to have 6 weeks worth of sick days saved up for the first few years of my career. We wanted to have another baby before I finish college that way I can stay home with the baby for at least a year like I get to with my 17 month old. Plus, I don’t want to have to take off work especially for 6 weeks or longer during my first 5 years of my teaching career since those years are crucial. I also want to have another baby before I start working because I had such a hard pregnancy with my 2nd child that I had to quit my job so I really don’t want that to happen again. But at the same time, I don’t feel like I’m ready to have another baby. Not that we aren’t financially stable or anything, I just personally feel like I’m not mentally or physically ready to have another one. And I’m afraid I’ll never be. I definitely want more biological children but my 2nd pregnancy was traumatic. I’ve always heard that it gets worse with each pregnancy. Any advice?

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Well I don't think it nessarly gets worse each time. My hardest pregnancy was my first by far! and I had four high risk pregnancys my third was physically the best but emotionally hard as we lost my mother in law during it. On ballance my fourth was best!Of course pregnancy does not always happen when we want it, you could always see if God blesses you and if it doesn't happen then try again in future, it sounds like there is pros and cons both now and later. Trusting in God's timing has always worked for us! My third didn't come according to my preferred timing but it turns out God sent him at just at the right time, as he brought such joy to our family in a time of greif.What ever you decide enjoy your time at home with your current little ones!