So I love my husband but he can be a real ass sometimes. We are young I’m 21 and he’s 23 we got married a year ago and have been together for a few years though. I was told as a teenager that I would have a really hard time getting pregnant due to some medical and genetic history. All my siblings have some <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> (I’m the youngest) and only one has been successful with 2 babies! So when we got married it was a serious discussion, obviously we wanted kids but I knew it would take a while so logic was if it’s gonna take a few years if we start early we will have a baby when we want in a couple years. In November I had surgery and my birth control pills mixed with the medince I had to be on after my procedure made me so I’ll I was miserable so I got off them and we got pregnant. Part of my surgery was to remove a mass in the uterus. So we think my reproductive organs being flushed and reset in a way made it so we did. We were so excited! We found out we were having a boy and then at the end of the forst trimester he lspt his heart beat and we were devastated. My dr after suggested we try to get pregnant right away as my body would be most fertile and it was a miracle I got pregnant in the first place. So we decided to. We had our fun and about a week before I would ovulate for the first time my husband expresses that he didn’t feel like it was the right time, and that he didn’t want to try. Which I was upset yes becusse I dream of being a mom. But logically he was right, we are building a home and it would be better to wait. So we said we would try In January when we were all moved in to our home and closed on that. I agreed and grieved for a couple days, I needed that cause I felt I didn’t fully grieve our loss because I was filled with hope so when that was gone I needed to grieve the rest which was good. Well now that’s just the beginning of the story. So I took an ovulation test and told him I was ovulating so he would know no sex... for a few Days. Well he got horny the night after my positive opk and I woke up to morning sex that I didn’t even know what happening nor did I want. He had already busted. I since have had a talk with him about how that’s not okay. I’m fine with being woken up to morning sex but if I’m not waking up then I kinda consider it rape, I’m not conscious and there for not concenting... and I explained to him that just because we are married doesn’t mean it’s always okay and he has automatic concern. Which he understands and felt bad about. And it hasn’t happened since and he’s been respectful in that manner. We’ll end of the month comes around and I’m pregnant! I was surprised and happy because a baby to me is always a happy thing. And he was happy too. We found out it’s a girl and she has made it past her brother and we were so excited. Then tonight I brought up to my husband what he thinks we should do about our house. We are at a point where we could back out by the end of the month and not lose out too much, so now that the plan changed we wanted to reasses. Especially because it cost more for us to have a nanny or daycare then I would make almost. And I’d be missing that time. When it was just us two the house was doable but our plans changed. And my husband was just like we should have been more careful not to get pregnant, that was dumb. And that comment really hurt my feelings... I fee regardless of hormones telling your pregnant wife that you wish she wasn’t pregnant cause it’s inconvenient to his house plans is so rude. We are so young. Most people our age in our area wouldn’t even have a townhouse let alone a brand new house at our age. But he just worded it like he doesn’t want to be a dad. He’s like I’ll get two jobs to make it work. Like he’d rather have noce things than see his family. And I appreciate his drive to work hard for us to provide. But my heart hurts for our daughter. Cause I feel like if it was a boy he’d be more excited. Based on a lot of other comments. I’m just hurt and I hate when he acts like it’s my fault I got pregnant even though it’s really 50/50 and for my arguments sake he’s more at fault because I told him I was ovulating and he had sec with me while I didn’t even know! But I don’t want to pull that card on him but if I don’t rant here I’m going to blow up on him. I love him but sometimes I just want to tell him to grow up. Ugh. Marriage is hard, parenthood is hard and I know itsnot meant to be easy and I will fight for us and it’s not going to be perfect this is a rough patch but I’m sick of feeling like crap. I don’t know what to do. I locked my self in the bath so I could relax and calm down, I don’t want to say anythingi regret but I feel like he needs to know how his worlds effect me and hurt, if he can express how he feels I should be able to too... idk?