Am I petty for doing this?

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Today I am 31 weeks pregnant. 
Today is also the day I told my boyfriend I don’t want to be in a relationship with him anymore. 
Yesterday we had an argument over tons of random bullshit- stemming from the fact that i called him out on not touching me, kissing me, or seeming attracted to me at all. He then side tracked the argument to turn it on me about how it’s my fault, or how other small stupid things are my fault as well. He finally was able to spit out that he straight up just wasn’t attracted to my pregnant body and would get turned off because I can only do like 2 positions comfortably. After i showered usually we both just lay down and go to sleep naked but he noticed I was wearing a dress to sleep, he asked why and all I had to say was that if he couldn’t have sex with my pregnant body then he doesn’t deserve to see it either. He got mad and turned away and didnt say a word to me the rest of the night. I really feel like I’m not in the wrong for covering myself up after he told me he doesnt like the way my body looks.

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I wouldn't say this is a breakup worthy issue.

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I don’t blame you. Men don’t consider how it makes us feel to know that our bodies are changing and we can’t do anything about it. I mean we are carrying a human being that is part of them too and some men dont appreciate it at all and it’s sad

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Sorry but it sounds like he is just being mean. Just my personal opinion based of what I just read. If the issue was he felt weird having sex with you because he can feel the baby move while you are in the zone or you are showing so it weirds him out ( which happens to men and i have known a few people feeling that way) it definitely hurt their partners feelings but they never stopped being attracted to their pregnant wife. Not once did they ever say i am not attracted to your pregnant body. 
 We all have our ups and downs and insecurities etc in a relationship. 
I have always been in shape so that is all my husband has ever know me to be. Then we got pregnant... obviously your body changes and stop being able to fit into your clothes. Some people get tiger stripes, i just got a straight line down my middle belly. He still loved me and was still attracted to me granted he will do the deed even if i am covered in sh**t(bottom line he loves me no matter what) then after being pregnant some bodies don’t bounce back without help. Mine hasn’t bounce back granted it has only been 3 months. And i personally have not been ready. My line probably won’t go away but my little belly pouch, that i can fix. He has been more attracted to me now.. he says I look healthy lol. He also knows that i am insecure about how i look now and he is always there to shut down those insecurities. 
What he said to you was wrong and hurtful. That is not love or respect. He should love you no matter what you look like. 
As for raising the child on your own... who said you would. Your child will still have a father. Doesn’t mean you need to be together for your child to have a loving home. You deserve to have a man by your side (if that is what you want) who lifts you up not bring you down. (Not in response to what you wrote)
I too would have broken up with him. 
 Not trying to offend anyone but this is just my personal opinion

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I understand how you are feeling but I feel that was a little petty. He was a gigantic ass but I think also there needs to be better communication and he said those things to you because you pissed him off. He should not have said those things but I think ending the relationship Over this won’t be good for either one of you. You guys need to sit down and have an adult conversation. He needs to not be childish either. I wish you the best of luck.

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I can understand being hurt and upset, but to end a relationship with a child involved?  Every relationship is going to go through rough patches and hurt feelings. My husband felt awkward with sex with our first baby, and also after the birth he made the mistake of looking down there and was basically grossed out and traumatized for months and we had difficulty sexually. But would I divorce over that?  No. We worked through it like 2 adults. No partner will ever be perfect, and problem-solving and forgiveness is essential in any relationship. It sounds like you're not really committed if you'd walk out over this, and to just throw out ending a relationship is very damaging to a relationship more so than any sort of fight or issue. At least try couples counseling.

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I think you're being a bit petty. It was an argument. I don't think I would plan to raise my child alone because my husband said it was hard to be sexually attracted to me after I gained 20 or so pounds. I'm sure it's hurtful. Idk I think you guys owe it to each other to talk it out.

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I mean I understand how you feel, I’m 4 months pregnant and I would feel just as upset.  Maybe you guys can discuss other things that can make him feel comfortable so that way he doesn’t come off as an ass.

Am I petty for doing this?

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