Lost a 25 year friendship?

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I hope i can make can make this easy to understand.  Just trying to get some input. 
So this screenshot is of my best friends (of 25 years) mom Judy..who also happens to be my husbands aunt. (My husband and I met through my best friend)
For reference Danny is my father in law, Sandy my step mother in law and winkie is a nickname they have given my husband. 
Now that that is all out of the way, I had made a post 2 weeks ago about my father in law and I getting into it because I didn't want my 5 year old to go swimming without me being present. I stated that I didn't trust her swimming without me and somehow it was twisted into that I didn't trust them( my in laws)  with her and it turned into an ORDEAL saying that I caused drama. 
It was basically smoothed over when I told them that as her Mother, I have say and its my job to keep her safe...I had worked all day and was exhausted and just didn't want to go swim. And that was that...it was dropped and things went on as normal. 
So the other night I get this message from husband's aunt...who lives 2 states away and 5 hours. Mind you we havent spoken to this woman in 2+ years. 
We moved from where we did live to the new state we are in about 8 months ago. We have not ever once asked our in laws for help with ANYTHING unless it was to ride with them when they were going to a store so we wouldn't have to drive our gas guzzler. 
ANYWAY. I sent my best friend (which is Judy's daughter) a screen shot and asked her what the hell that was about ( mind you her and I had talked the night before this message. She completely agreed with the whole deal about me not wanting to take my daughter swimming after working all day and how I felt attacked for my decision and how I let them know that it wasn't happening. And that it was ridiculous that they got mad I didnt back down or change my decision.) 
She called me shortly after the message I sent her and proceeded to tell me that her mom wasn't wrong, that she doesnt care about hearing about my problems anymore, that she's worried about my father in law and mother in laws (her aunt and uncle)  health as opposed to anything else. That me and my husband lie. Which blew my mind. 
I was completely speechless and shocked. Her and I have always talked about problems, had just a good old fashioned vent session...she was in the room when my daughter was born, cut her cord, I mean she has been there for me through everything.  My divorce from my abusive ex husband and everything.  
My in laws twisted everything or took it out of context and brought people into it that had no business being in it to begin with....and she believed them over me...
I dont know what to say. I'm not going to apologize over my feelings or about how I parent my child. I cried most of the night about it. She never came out and said that we weren't friends anymore, but how am I supposed to read into it. I havent messaged or called her...or if I even should. I debated on waiting for her to call or message me,  but I read I'm waiting for something that will never come. My feelings are hurt. My husband definitely said what he had to say...but I feel like he attacked the wrong person...he should have lashed out at judy or my in laws but instead he lashed at my bestfriend...after she lashed. 
What do you guys think of the whole mess?

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They were wrong in every aspect.sucks you lost your friend but you just found out who is your real family who's going to have your back.
here is where you started out wrong do not post drama on  social media that your family an friends can see.if you cannot say it to their faces do not post it on Facebook.
 You the mother is doing what you need to do to protect your child they are just acting like  brats.I'm surprised you didn't kick them all out of your life sooner because there's really no point to having toxic people like them in your life.

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There’s not enough info for us to really weigh in. They said you’re always lying and what not? We all don’t know what ur friendship is like. You posted on fb for everyone to see which is kind of childish to begin with. If someone posted my family on fb talking crap I’d kinda have the same reaction lol... but again maybe sit back and check yourself and really determine whether or not you’ve been the problem starting things all the time. She sounds fed up

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I wouldnt have aired your drama on fb... especially not family drama. You were basically asking for peoples input on the situation and now you're upset because they gave you their input???

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I have a strong feeling that's not your friend talking. I'd put a lot of distance between you and them.

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I’m sorry this is happening to you but honestly her message was uncalled for. Why the name calling and profanity? She is not your friend, she doesn’t even respect you. It sucks you may feel like you lost her but it might just be a gain 🤷🏽‍♀️

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To be honest, you shouldn’t have posted your drama on Facebook. 
Judy is way, way, waaaay out of line though. Who knows what your in laws told them, but your husband needs to sit them down and have a talk about why they would turn around and do that weeks later when you thought everything had been sorted out. 
& as for your “best friend”...I just don’t know what to say on that one. I’m baffled too. But you don’t need a friend like that.