Will it make me a bad parent?

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I am polyamorous. I have been married to my husband for almost 4 years. We’ve been together for 8 years. 
I’ve known my boyfriend for about 10 years. We’ve been together for about a year as a couple. 
We all live together and all get along great. We own our house, we all work, and do good! I’ve decided that I want to have a baby by each of them. We’ve all talked about it and all are fine with it. 
I’ve had family and friends tell me that I’d be an awful parent if I had a baby with each of them because the relationship and situation is so “complicated”. 
Do you think it will make me a bad parent?

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No, how you parent them would determine that

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If you were a man and had multiple wives , no one would question weather you’d be a good parent or not . So I don’t see why people would say your a bad parent . As long as y’all love your kids , talk to them as they grow , don’t beat them or neglect them or stuff like that then you’ll be a great parent . It’s your life and if you all are happy then that’s what matters .

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Why would you be a bad parent for having children in a polyamorous relationship where all parties have given their enthusiastic consent? That’s silly. 
Why would this truthfully be any different than a woman who has multiple children from multiple relationships? My mother isn’t a bad parent just because my dad is different than my brother’s dad.
So long as you’re raising your child(ren) with love in a healthy and safe environment, it’s nobody else’s business what your family dynamic looks like. Screw them.

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I'm pleasantly surprised with the amount of "no" answers on the poll. My experience on this app has been that the stronngggg majority of people are in super traditional (and straight) relationships - though that may be too judgemental of me since I myself am in a straight-passing relationship but neither of us are heterosexual. That being said, I'm surprised that so many people are being open minded but that makes me happy. 
Anyways! How you parent will determine whether you're a good parent or not, not the makeup of your family structure. Other kids might have questions but I think kids are a lot more accepting than we give them credit for and once it's explained to them they'll probably just say "okay." The kids who are mean about it are the ones who would be mean about something else anyways. You love both your partners and are in long term relationships with both of them, it's natural that you'd want kids with both! Keep living your life in a way that makes you whole 💕

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I think as long as child is loved and brought up with respect for others and manners what’s the harm (if your judging whether it would be a good decision to have children) I do think it’s important that you educate your children so they are aware there are less families like theirs and it isn’t as common to have 3 parents in a relationship together than there are with just two parents so they understand differences and don’t feel like it’s ‘wrong’. It’s up to how you want to teach your children, give them choices but also make them know there’s nothing wrong with being heterosexual or bisexual or transsexual or homosexual. ☺️

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What happens between your sheets and with whom does not determine your suitability to parent your children.

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Peoples perceptions of your lifestyle does in no way determine how you will be as a parent.

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You would not be a bad parent and as long as everyone in your relationship is consenting I don't see an issue. Sure, people might have questions and at times it may get tough (like when your babies are school aged and have friends over) but I don't believe it's a big deal. Plenty of other cultures are fine with poly relationships. For some it's super beneficial. Western culture preaches monogamy but there are so many other types of relationships and marriages. None are wrong unless there are people being forced, which is not your case

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I mean the kids are going to be confused by it and have a ton of questions. I cant judge if your going to be a good parent just based off this info

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Bad parenting makes you a bad parent, not what you do between the sheets or with whom. Everyone is different and have different lifestyles, I say as long as you love your child(ren) and are open and honest about your lifestyle, explaining that your family is just different than most but doesn’t mean it’s not any less special and loving. Who you create a child with or live with doesn’t make you a bad parent and anyone who thinks that is a fucking idiot. Just love your child(ren), raise them to be good, strong, loving individual(s) and I say you will be a great parent, all 3 of you will be.

Will it make me a bad parent?

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