**Friend doesn’t recognize an abusive relationship**

I have a very dear friend to me who I believe is in an abusive relationship but I’m scared that she can’t see it because she’s been in it for so long. I have never been in an abusive relationship, but I was in an extremely verbally and physically abusive house hold. I recognize signs of disassociation and signs personality change due to coping. He boyfriend has put his hands on her, threatened to kick her out, told her she would never make it without him and I feel, has made her persona change in every way. She was always independent but now I catch her worrying about how she will do certain things that everyone should be able to do in basic life like talk on the phone etc. she even has started to explain away his abuse as her fault and “there’s two sides to this relationship” I fear that if she needs me one day I won’t be there and I also fear that she won’t be able to come back from this a whole person. I’m sorry that this post is so rambled but I’m honestly so lost and confused as to how this has happened. I’m looking for any kind of advice I can pass along and any one who can help me understand her view point. Am I over reacting? I have offered her help and resources and even offered to pay her way to come live with me and recover before she sets out for her next chapter. I’m not sure what else to do for her.