Hi everyone. Great app, great people..

Please share any advice on how in general a young couple can improve on their sex life.

We rarely are synced in terms of wanting each other, at one point I want her badly but she’s busy and focused or drained and tired etc and visa versa happens though with me as stressing about stuff. How can we improve the frequency as well as activity in our sex life. We are both self employed running jointly some businesses and individually others. We are young (in our 30’s) but living life as if we are 15 years older. We have our own space, have no kid’s and 75% of the time get along well. We don’t have other partners, we have full access to each other be it phone, banking details, parents etc everything is open and shared. We both have baggage from our past though my partner is having more difficulty than me in getting past it all, but I’m supportive and there.

She rarely initiates sex and kinda fumbles when she does. I have told her she’s sexy and continue to encourage and talk on these matters but the charge is tortoise steps. If she initiated and is rejected or put on hold she’s on hold for weeks before she tries again. When we where dating we where busy a lot (bunnies) but as of late things have died down from 98% to 40%. When in the situation at times she’s ticklish rather than pleasured and when I trace I’ll be doing the same thing but her response is different. She’s said she at times is not there but when in the zone all is dandy. She organisms 90% of the time and more than once in a session 80% of the time. She gets to point where she’s afraid or in unknown territory and hold back though is satisfied.

Any advise would be appreciated I’ll answer any reasonable questions to help share more information so you can advise best.

Thank you