Hi ladies,

I have been upset thinking about events this weekend and wanted to get some perspective.

I live apart from my fiance and we spent some time together this weekend as lockdown restrictions are easing. I also thought we might be able to celebrate as I have a new job offer which I was excited about.

I tried to avoid the issue of salary with this new job as it is a significant jump for me, but also disproportionately higher than his, but he directly asked me about it. I don't have a lot of people to share my good news with, so told him when he asked.

His behaviour changed quite a lot over the weekend, it started with making fun of me in a playful way to belittling me because I don't have many friends. He then suggested that I was rude to him because I asked him not to watch football while we spend quality time together over the weekend. He then said I should celebrate with my sister instead as he needs to go. After the brief conversation of me telling him about my new job we did not discuss or celebrate the news.

Since Sunday we have barely spoken, I have tried to make dinner plans with him for next weekend to pacify but he hasn't replied to my messages or calls either.

I am really disappointed as we are engaged and should be able to talk things out. Whenever we do have arguments he becomes emotional and defensive, so I avoid the confrontation.

Not sure what to do, any thoughts would be gratefully received as I am hurt and confused by this behaviour xxx