I’m so annoyed and need advice.

I have my daughter 6 days a week. She goes with her dad 3 Friday’s a month. We currently live with my mom, but are moving out in a few months to our own place.

My mom is very involved with my daughter and it’s almost to a fault. She and I have gotten into it because she tells me what to do with my daughter and just is very judgemental.

Well my daughter is 16 months old now. Come October, my boyfriend wants me to fly back home with him for 6 days to meet his friends/ family. I was thinking of having my daughter spend half the time with my mom and half with my ex because my mom works. My mom FLIPPED. She started saying, “no, don’t leave her with him for 3 days that would be so mean and that’s not fair to her. Don’t give him the luxury of getting used to having her that much. Don’t do that to her. Come back early or take her with.” She even suggested it’s would be better to leave my daughter with my 16 year old sister instead of her own dad.

IM SORRY BUT IS SHE MY DAUGHTER OR WHAT? My mom hates my ex and I get it, but he is still her dad and if I want him to have her for 2 extra days one week a few months down the road, then that’s my decision.

She’s making me feel like I am so neglectful and stupid for her even considering it.

Any advice or thoughts on this would be appreciated!!