Do you care if your man does this?

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Hi ladies. So I’ve been with my husband almost 8 years in total married for 2. After snooping when we first moved in together I realized he is literally obsessed with porn. He saves naked woman on his laptop and some videos and it’s always a constant argument when I find it and gets turned around on me for snooping. However, before the issue was we weren’t having sex at all really maybe once a month and he’d be jerking offs while I’m at work and he works from home and then claims he’s so busy working he can’t even help clean. However now, we are TRYING TO CONCEIVE and he’s still watching it. Now that I’m home due to covid he wakes up earlier than me since he’s still working and JERKS OFF IN THE MORNING. I just went to check his laptop and boom saved porn. I haven’t mentioned it right now as it’s a constant fight and will get turned around on me again as to why I’m looking through his stuff. Any advice?

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It sounds like a major porn addiction to me. I would be really bothered by it. I mean I don't mind my husband jerking occasionally or watching occasional porn, but daily is excessive to me. I would have a serious talk with him and maybe suggest marriage or individual counselling or both

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Extreme advice 
Call your Internet company and put a block on 18+ websites in the day time they can do that. 
I mean the thing is he is probably addicted. Its more than just jerking off now since he is saving things now. You could try therapy. It might be a stress reliever for him.

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The not being up front and saving shit would be a issue for me . The porn it’s self not u till it interrupts our sex life.

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Personally I don’t care if my SO watches porn but that’s because he isn’t obsessed with it or addicted to it. If he was masturbating to it instead of having sex with me, I’d have a HUGE problem with it. 
Your man doesn’t care at all that you have an issue with it because he’s putting it all back on you for “snooping”, which is just ridiculous, and not addressing the problem. He’s addicted to porn and probably can’t stop without professional help. 
Try relationship counseling.

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Currently going through this. My ex partner is addicted and we are no longer together. Constantly saving pictures of naked woman and hiding it and lying about it.

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To be perfectly honest, most men ARE obsessed with it. Some women are okay with it and some women are not. Its okay to NOT be okay with it in your relationship. 
Guys are visual creatures and get off visually most of the time. In most cases, occasionally porn is okay. When it becomes a bigger issue is when it negatively affects your relationship. If it is affecting you're sex life, or even your self image and self esteem, it is okay to be upset. You need to decide how to handle this ... speak to him about how his porn use makes you feel. Guys literally don't see any issue with it and most guys will tell you its normal and all guys do it. Its a quick stimulation, which in most cases shouldn't be an issue, maybe as a stress release or if his wife is away or unable to have sex. A lot of women find its fine because hes not out having sex with another woman and not bugging her when she's not in the mood. Other women use porn themselves. 
In your case, you need to have a calm and open discussion with him about what you found and how you feel. You are allowed to feel whatever way you feel. Don't fly off the handle and don't be accusatory.  Just be honest about you're feelings.

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It’s porn not that big of a deal. If you have to try and control what he does y’all should have had this convo before getting married. My husband watches porn and jerks off to it and idc I do the same lol. Y’all act like watching porn is cheating or Un natural.