Mental abuse....maybe narcissistic.

I've been in this marriage a long time. But recently, especially after having my son I've started paying more attention. There's a ton of mental health awareness videos on tiktok, and i know it's crazy to think tiktok opened my eyes. But it kind of did, seeing that other women have or are going through the same thing. But now I'm questioning myself as to whether I'm over reacting? Do other couples go through this everyday? Or every time they go out separately? If i go to see my friends i get the attached messages and that night actually was yelled at for about and hour and half after i made it home. I was literally sitting on my girl friend's back porch talking.(our son was at my mom's) I get called names almost everyday and the newest one is he told my family my friends and i are alcoholics. Here'ssome of what he says to me "Crack head pay fucking attention next time, you don't need the radio that loud,you act different around your friends, i won't touch the dishes until you start making money(when i took a hear off to be with the baby)" the list goes on and on.

Someone please tell me I'm not crazy and this isn't what it's like for truly happy couples? Happy husnands wouldn't cuss there wives out or bitch about every meal she made? Right? 😭